Everything has changed for weddings this year and it’s even more uncertain as it changes all the time. We accept questions about all things weddings via firstname.lastname@example.org and a number of couples have asked us about having fewer guests at their wedding.
As you know, because of the COVID-19 restrictions, wedding guest numbers have been decreased. This is particularly stressful if you were planning a bigger wedding. This is also changing from place to place, from day to day, leading to a feeling of uncertainty and a need for flexibility.
Many of you have had to postpone your wedding and now, as this continues, you are looking for an alternative option. Hence, the rise of the Micro Wedding.
What is a Micro Wedding?
Micro Weddings have been around for a long time, but this year they are becoming much more popular. With the restrictions around guest numbers in place, 2020 and 2021 will definitely see an increase in Micro Weddings. A large number of people in Ireland and the UK have postponed their weddings, but for those of you who still want to go ahead, the micro wedding is on the rise.
How many guests at a micro wedding?
A micro-wedding is defined as any wedding where there are less than twenty guests. Anything between twenty and sixty people is considered a small wedding.
This type of wedding is often (but not always) a more casual event. It usually is shorter than a traditional wedding, with far fewer formalities. With such an intimate group, the atmosphere changes. Couples often forgo activities like speeches, live music, dances and throwing the bouquet. These can be replaced with storytelling, passing the bouquet around as a talking stick, sing songs. As it costs less per guest, there is often a trend towards gourmet meals and delicious treats for guests.
Tight Budget Weddings
As for 2019, the cost of the average wedding in Ireland is 28,000. That’s quite a lot of money. What’s more, around 14,000 of this goes to the venue. For many people, this is too much money to spend on one day.
If you are on a smaller budget or you would prefer a toned-down occasion, micro-weddings are an excellent choice as they give you the wedding experience on a more intimate scale.
With larger weddings on hold at the moment and the number of guests allowed changing all the time and since these numbers can be changed with little or no notice, the micro wedding is becoming an excellent choice.
Our advice for a brilliant Micro Wedding
Whether you’ve always planned on having a micro wedding or it’s an adaptation to the COVID-19 restrictions, we are here to help you to reinvent the Micro Wedding for your dream day.
Guest List Cuts - Digital Weddings, flexibility and consideration
Can you reduce your guest list down to twenty people? If you can choose twenty guests you want to be at your wedding, then a micro-wedding is certainly an option for you.
Choosing is difficult and it’s a minefield trying not to offend people. We will be adding ‘unvite due to restrictions’ feature to the Be Our Guest app that gives you some handy templates about what to say when uninviting guests. The main pointers are to remind guests that this is a health-related crisis, that there are government restrictions in place and that you apologise for any inconvenience they might experience. It might also be good to talk to your venue about refunds for guests who have booked accommodation and relay this information to them.
Flexibility is important. That’s why we recommend our Wedding Journey app Be Our Guest. You can download Be Our Guest for free from the home page (www.beourguest.app) and use our fantastic wedding journey app to send unlimited, free digital Save the Dates, invitations and RSVPs. This helps with uncertainty as it provides you with the flexibility to let guests know about restrictions, change your invites or your wedding details at any time.
However, if cutting your guest list down dramatically gives you a sense of dread, then perhaps waiting it out and postponing your wedding is a better choice for you. If your wedding must be postponed due to COVID-19 in order to have the day you really want, then postponing is best.
Choose a Micro Wedding Venue
It’s quite easy for any venue to provide the guests with an appropriately sized space for a medium or large wedding. It becomes a bit harder with small or micro weddings. The venue might not have spaces that suit a small group.
But don’t fret, there are plenty of options. Picking the right type of wedding venue is so important. You want to select a place that gives your guests the space they need to relax. On the other hand, it needs to be a small enough space to create the type of intimacy that can be experienced with a micro-wedding. This doesn’t have to be a traditional hotel-style venue, you could look at having it in your back garden, a restaurant, a local hall or a specialised venue catering to small weddings.
Essential Parts of the Micro Wedding
With a typical micro-wedding, couples opt to cut out many traditional parts that you would experience at a bigger wedding. However, depending on your budget, what you have or don’t have is up to you.
Our top tip for a micro-wedding is making a list of all the must-haves, the essentials, that you see as part of your wedding day. Perhaps you would like an amazing wedding cake, an expensive, talented photographer, a designer gown, full hair and makeup, a live band, or a luxury meal. Decide on the things that you and your partner aren’t willing to compromise on.
With bands, one couple we talked to mentioned that they were worried about the impact of having a more intimate wedding gathering. Their big fear was that the dancing just wouldn’t be fun with fewer people or that the dance floor would be empty all night.
They thought about getting a smaller band or asking less of the band members to play, some people are opting for a DJ instead or even just having a sing-song session.
What I would say to this – is know your crowd. Remember that wedding bands do get people up dancing but it depends on the guests you are inviting and how likely they will be to join in. Perhaps another type of entertainment would suit better? Personally, I feel that a good wedding band makes the evening and that you would be surprised at how many people get up to dance.
Get Wedding Suppliers
If you are ready to plan your micro-wedding, the first step is downloading Be Our Guest – the wedding journey app. Use the app to invite your guests, keep them informed of all the wedding details and any changes as they happen and search our app-based directory for local venues and suppliers that cater to micro weddings.
Hope you have a fantastic wedding! Remember to send all your questions to email@example.com and download our Wedding Journey app for free from our home page www.beourguest.app
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